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Published: September 12, 2019

Telling someone their loved one has died is never easy. You don’t want to hurt people, but you also need to be direct and provide facts. At The Jerry Spears Company, we have seen several clients struggle to share the news. Here are some tips that can help you break the news gently:

1. Tell Them in Person
You can inform distant relatives and associates through phone or email, but it is best to tell close friends and relatives in person. You can sit down with them and explain what happened carefully. Don’t attempt to sugarcoat anything or use euphemisms. It is best to be clear, direct, and honest during this time. If possible, keep the explanation brief and limit yourself to facts.

2. Wait For Them To React
It is tempting to make promises and offer assurances to the shocked individual, but that can do more harm than good. Wait for them to process the news and provide some silent company. You can take your cues from their reaction instead of trying to figure out what they need beforehand. For example, if the family member starts crying, you can comfort them with your presence. If they panic or demand answers, you can calm them down with clear explanations and compassion.

3. Don’t Delay
It is best to open the conversation with the news instead of explaining the background first. For example, start with "Uncle Tom died this morning." You can tell them where it happened, how it happened, and who was with the deceased individual. It is essential to be just as blunt with children because euphemisms will confuse them.
Take some time for yourself after the conversation is over. Conveying such news can be stressful and take a toll on your mental health. It is a good idea to find someone to support you or help you process your grief.

If you want to know about our support and funeral services, don’t hesitate to contact us at The Jerry Spears Company. Our team will be happy to help.

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