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Published: October 25, 2017

It’s not easy to sit by and watch a friend grieve due to the loss of a loved one. Most people want to do something to help ease the pain and offer comfort, but this isn’t as easy as it sounds. People struggle to choose the right words and wonder if the comfort they offer will be accepted. Here are some tips and suggestions that will help you through the process:

1. Give Them Their Space

It’s important to give people some space and allow them to find their own way to grieve. Some people want company during this process and will seek out their friends. Others would rather be alone and deal with their grief in private. It’s important to understand the signs and accept their decision, even if it’s hard to stay away.

2. Don’t Say Anything You Wouldn’t Want to Hear in the Same Position

People are sensitive and can easily become offended during this period of their lives so it’s important to mind your words. Don’t say anything you wouldn’t want to hear in the same situation. It’s better to stay by the friend’s side as silent support than to say something that offends them and causes them more pain.

3. Don’t Take Things Personally

If the friend rejects your comfort or says something unacceptable, don’t take it personally because the problem has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their personal mental state. If the friend isn’t in an amiable mood, step away and let them compose themselves, you can call later to enquire about their health and heal the bridge.

If you want to know more about pre-planning a funeral, don’t hesitate to contact us at The Jerry Spears Company. Our team will be happy to help.

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