When it comes to saying goodbye to a passed loved one, we understand that it is never easy. The grieving process, for some can be a long and emotionally painful process. However, a way to help people through the grief is by finding a unique and creative way to memorialize and honour their loved one. When creating memorials it can help with the grieving process, as you are able to focus on the life they lived and have something tangible to hold onto. There are many ways to memorialize your loved one, in this article we will take a look at 5 different ways to honour your loved one once they have passed.
Scrap Book or Photo Albums: When you are able to go through pictures and items of your passed loved one it helps with the grieving process by allowing you to focus on the good memories. When you place together a scrapbook or photo album you can collect photos and memorabilia that will bring back positive memories. You can even make a day out of it with family and friends by piecing together all of your favourite memories and reflecting on that time.
Balloon Message: The balloon message memorials are on a huge rise. For some they decide to send the messages alone or get together with friends and family and send them off together. All you need is a few helium filled balloons, some ribbon and your personalized message attached and you send it off. It is a way to feel like you are connecting with your loved ones and sending a message along the way. It can also be incredibly therapeutic to write down all your emotions you are feeling, and having a direct conversation with them.
Plant a tree: Many people have chosen this memorial idea because like a humans, trees grow into something strong and beautiful. You are able to watch this tree grow from something very small into this beautiful piece of nature and it serves as a reminder of the circle of life. You can either plant a tree either on your own propriety or an area that reminds you of your loved one.
Charitable Activities: If your loved one had a specific charity or cause close to heart, why not volunteer some of your time to that charity. When you are able to do an activity that your passed loved on appreciate it will bring you closer to them. If you do not have the time to volunteer, you can even make a charitable donation in their name.
Frame a Cherished Clothing Item: If your loved one was, for example, was very into sports, it’s a great idea to frame one of their sports jersey or even their favourite t-shirt. Why seeing it on display in your home it will bring you closer every day to them.
If you have any more unique ideas on how to memorialize your passed loved ones, or any more questions, please contact us at Jerry Spears Funeral Home.
Pallbearers are the people that escort and carry the casket at a funeral. The practice of using of using a pallbearer is only necessary when there is a casket present at the funeral or the memorial service. However, in most cases men are traditionally the pallbearers, because in some cases women do not have the physical strength to carry the casket. Yet, we are seeing an increase in the number of women pallbearers and it is not as uncommon. Anyone, regardless of gender or age can be a pallbearer for the deceased, but normally is someone of close relationship to the deceased.
As previously mentioned, anyone can be a pallbearer, but traditionally it is the people closest to the deceased, such as close friends or family. At each service, you need six people to escort the casket, but in some cases people may decide to have 8 pallbearers, adding one on the front handle and one of the back.
It is considered to be a huge honor to be asked to be a pallbearer at a service because you hold a huge responsibility of caring your loved on to their last resting spot. In most cases, pallbearers are close friends, adult children or siblings of the deceased, however it is your choice in which you select. It is important to remember that when selecting a pallbearer that you remember the physical side of caring the casket, they need to be strong enough to lift it and walk with the casket. The physical weight of the casket is the largest reason why some women are not comfortable being pallbearers.
Once you have chosen the pallbearers, make sure you sit down and communicate to them their role during the service and make sure it is something that they are comfortable with. It is important that they understand their role and are comfortable with the task at hand. It will also give them a chance to voice any concerns or questions that they may have and find an appropriate solution. In some cases, people are not comfortable being pallbearers, that’s why it is important to have the conversation before the service.
In case you have any concerns about funeral services or you are currently planning the funeral of a departed loved one, you can contact us here to talk with the funeral directors of Jerry Spears Funeral Home.